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5 Ways on How to Stop an Argument

(Originally published at WriteforACause.Org)

howtostopargumentArguing each other isn’t a simple matter, no matter where you look at it, especially when the argument is so heated that might result into shouting and pointing fingers. Some arguments are foolish and full of nonsense things, some are out of pride and geniuses, while others are caused by proving one’s superiority and intellect all because he hates to lose.

James 3:17 ESV But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.

If you’re a spiritual person, heated argument is something you must not come into practice—don’t make it a lifestyle! Arguing isn’t highly recommended, even if it’s just intended for a joke. But if you’re trapped in a heated argument, or discussion, or if someone leads you to debate which you cannot escape because it is often inevitable, the following ways might help you. It may not apply to all, but there is always someone out there who might need this.

  1. Do a business talk! If you feel like the discussion is nearly beyond limit, you take the initiative to make it stop. Encourage the other party that there’s no point in debating, encourage him as if you’re selling your product, meaning, do it in a pleasant, professional way! If both of you have different grounds then it’s useless, going any further might result to a more heated discussion.
  2. Don’t frown, keep smiling. If you’re at your limit, take a deep breath and smile. Just like that, yes, smile as if you’re facing a clown with his big, red lips, or simply imagine McDonalds in front of you, wait, I think that’s creepy. But if the person keeps on throwing words at you, keep smiling still, smile and reply no more. Shortly then, he will feel awkward at your smiling that shouting at you isn’t any more fit into the situation.
  3. Eat your pride. Be humble instead. This is simple, and very basic knowledge, but it is very hard to do without the grace of God! But you see, if both of you are prideful then stopping an argument is quite a struggle to both sides. Pride is not a soap (okay I’m humoring), it’s a destructive attitude that will always make you want to win any argument. Take the first step to let it go, and embrace humility, even if it means losing the discussion.
  4.  Stop and stare. So you’re done presenting your view, and he’s done also, and yet he isn’t satisfied so he keeps on muttering arguments at you, then I highly recommend that you be silent. Don’t throw replies anymore, you know it’s pointless already. I highly recommend that in the midst of his blabbering, you stop. Then stare at the person’s eyes with seriousness, or, in a very comical way. Keep mute and just stare at him or her, more likely, he will say, “What?” Good then if that’s the case, you can tell him, “Are you done? Because, well, I’m done. So, let’s eat?”
  5. Read Mark 12:31. And be reminded.

What are your other thoughts on how to stop an argument? It’s my pleasure to hear more from you, too. List it below!

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Pray High

In our journey as Christians, we face problems, persecutions, and personal struggles. There are moments in our life that we feel so down, depressed, lonely, and sad. We are in a constant struggle. As long as we are here on this world we are still vulnerable to temptations, problems, and struggles. But the good thing about us who have Jesus Christ in our lives is that we know that we are not abandoned. We are not alone in our struggles. WE HAVE A GOD. In our constant struggles in life we become even more stronger in the LORD, especially when we overcome the problem, knowing that God is walking with us.

In our journey in life, then, prayer is a valuable weapon. It is our way of communicating to God. In our prayers we can report to God and cry, “Abba Father!” “Help me, oh, LORD.”

Prayer is a powerful tool. Through prayers we can intercede for others. Through prayers we can have hope. Hope in the Living God who will answer us in His own time. We must pray diligently and wait until God answers us. Though there are times we feel like God is not listening to our prayers anymore, that He is not answering us. But in such cases, God is being silent for a reason that He alone knows. It might be He wants us to understand something.

But to pray once is sometimes not enough. We have to pray higher. Remember that prayer is our great way of communicating to God, whether it be solemn, or in a not-so-formal way. There are no requirements when we pray to God, it doesn’t need position, status, formalities, or anything. Just pray and be yourself when talking to Him. God knows your heart. Your motive.

God loves it when we pray. Because He knows that we are thinking of Him and that we need Him in our lives.

Always have a quiet time with the LORD.

And pray. But praying once is not enough. PRAY HIGH.

All articles are written by Jenine Silos. Unless otherwise stated.

Humble Yourself and Submit to Authority

Written by: Jenine Silos

What does the bible say about submission? What does it really mean? Is it really necessary for Christians to have a submissive heart? And why do we need to submit?

Hebrews 13:17 “Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.”

Submission means consistently putting other needs and benefits before your own, a willingness to yield or surrender to somebody.

Submitting to leaders is not a fictional principle, but it is very biblical! God commands us to submit to those who are in authority over us. Romans 13:1 “Let every person be subject to governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God.”

By submitting to our leaders, we are also submitting to the One who is in authority over us—that is, Christ. In order to submit, we really need to have a humble heart, a heart that is willing to surrender and lay down everything before God. Hence, we should desire and pray for a humble heart, and be willing to completely submit to God.

We must not only submit to our leaders, but to “each other.” Ephesians 5:21 “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Paul is teaching us to submit to one another. And that’s the gospel of Christ, being slaves to each other. And even though we have our own spiritual leaders (and that we have to submit to them), all of us have no other leader but Him. We are all under Jesus’ leadership.

We need to submit to our leaders because God said so. Romans 13:1-7 “Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment. For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, for he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer. Therefore one must be in subjection, not only to avoid God’s wrath but also for the sake of conscience.”

Titus 3:1 “Remind them to be submissive to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good work,”

So if you find a hard time in humbling yourself to your leaders, then pray to God. Pray to Jesus and ask for Him a humble heart. But asking for a humble heart actually starts with a desire, and that desire leads you to decide — a decision to deny yourself and completely follow Christ.  There are people who have the desire but they don’t have firm decision, some could not even decide because they know that if they will, they will have to abandon their sins—the worldly pleasures.

Pray for a humble heart. And submit to Authority—Jesus Christ, including to those people who are instituted by God, the leaders.

Never Stop Learning

Never Stop Learning!

Written by: Jenine Silos

Photo credits: delisiaraceli.com

Learning happens all the time. It simply happens wherever you are even when you don’t expect it at all. The necessity to acquire knowledge to compete with today’s standards is not enough reason to start learning, because learning will present itself without actually wanting it; sometimes you will just know something when you realize it’s already there.

Suppose you go to a coffee shop, and it’s not the usual shop that you go into but it’s the nearest one to your school so you go there anyway. Then you order a cup of brewed coffee with a plate of pancake. And you ask the attendee for the wifi’s password while you start up your laptop, and they reply “Sorry Miss. But we don’t offer WiFi in our shop.” Suppose you thought that every coffee shop is a wifi area, however, this circumstance helps you to conclude that not all coffee shop is a WiFi Spot. It’s not a big knowledge but it’s an experience wherein you learn that not all coffee shops are wifi spots. You never expect it from the start, there’s no necessity of it, but you learn something new.

Learning is not just all about acquiring of knowledge just for the sake of it. Learning is there when you realize something new aside from what you already know. It is there even when you don’t expect it.

Well, the principle of learning is very simple—it just never stops!

How great would it be if we apply the principle of learning to our relationship with Christ! Can you imagine a relationship with Christ that just never stops? Suppose a person isn’t a follower of Christ, he knows there is a God but he doesn’t seek for it, because he doesn’t want a God to rule his life. But that’s not enough reason for him not to know God. Because in one way or another, Jesus Christ himself, our LORD and Savior, will present Himself to that man. He will be known even when a person claims he doesn’t need God. Jesus did not come to call the righteous, but the sinners, that include those people who live a godless life.

And when Jesus heard it, he said to them, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. I came not to call the righteous, but sinners.” (Mark 2:17)

How great would it be if we apply the principle of learning to our daily walks with Christ! We will then never stop getting thirsty for the word of God. We are always hungry. Hungry for the new revelations and wisdom from God! True learning is acquired from God and not by man’s works alone—and it never stops!

Even when a person doesn’t have the desire to learn about God, in one way or another, God himself will be made known to him. But the crucial issue is not about his learning, but it is when it already involves his personal RESPONSE. God will reveal himself to us, but knowing He is real will not save us. Because what matters now is the way how we respond to His calling…by that I meant…

“Do you believe that Jesus Christ cleansed our sins by dying at the cross? Do you accept Him as our personal LORD and Savior? Are you willing to die and give up yourself to faithfully follow Him?”

For to us, in Christ, we should never stop learning more about Him. Be a lifelong student of God!

The Techno City

The Techno City

Jenine Silos

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The sky is wide and blue. Bright and colored lights are everywhere. It is peaceful but the atmosphere they breathe is something their noses could not deny to smell—contaminated. There is no traffic in the air, but cars are hovering non-stop over the buildings. Some are small, some are big and tall.

In the epicenter of the Techno City there stood the largest building, but no, it is not just a building. It is the palace of the Elite Government. The Techno Tower.

Billboards overpowered the banners. Foods are not naturally made. Everything is man-made, artificial, or if there is something beyond that.

There is no such thing as NATURE. Children cannot even define the word, people do not know it. They believe that a place like nature is just a legend. They only know the world they currently see – the exceptional technology of the Techno City, ruled by an extraordinary genius man named Mr. Zan Von Duor. He is a ruler that is unseen by everyone.

In the western side of Techno City, 100 miles away from the Techno Tower, lives the Family Buoyant. The Buoyant couple has an only child, his name is Wiki, a cheerful ten-year-old boy who loves books than playing with robots. He is sometimes lazy but wise.

“Mom, I read a book about nature. I think they’re AWE—SOME!” Wiki reported to Mrs. Buoyant when they’re eating dinner. They have noodles for dinner, machine-made.

Well, the average lifespan of people is thirty. And since there is no such thing as nutrients and herbs, their health is failing continuously.

At five you are still a kid, ten is considered a teenager.

At fifteen they are young professionals and it’s the start of their marriage years.

At twenty-five you are old. At the age of thirty they expect an incurable disease that’ll kill them. Beyond that, they are considered to be too old to survive the unclean air.

Wiki went to his grandpa’s house yesterday. He saw a book about plants and herbs, enthralled by this, Wiki started to believe that plants are not just a myth. “I think they’re real, Mom.” Wiki added, slurping some noodles.

Mrs. Buoyant irked a brow at him. “Don’t you ever say that in front of your father, he’ll spank you.”

“He’s always busy at work, anyway.” Wiki scoffed. Mr. Buoyant is working at the Techno Tower, and Wiki calls him “The Mad Scientist.”

“Where did you get that book you’re saying?” Mrs. Buoyant asked, finishing her noodles.

“At grandpa’s house.”

Wiki’s mother shook her head. “Son, that book you got is just a myth. Dad is full of weird imaginations. He’s a frustrated author.”

“No! Grandpa even wrote their definitions. The classifications of plants and herbs, even fishes are real! Fishes are not toys! They’re living creatures like us. Believe me, Mom. The hearsay from neighborhood is true!”

“Wiki—“Mrs. Buoyant gasped, “Your grandpa died without leaving a hint of evidence to prove his theory about nature.” She sighed in concern, “Son, I want you to throw that book. I don’t want you to spend your time believing a false theory. Okay?”

Wiki heaved his chest in disappointment. But he’s not giving up, in fact, it is just the beginning of his research.

I will prove to them that grandpa did not lie! He’s not a frustrated author. Nature and fishes are real!

“Okay, Mom.” Wiki said, rolling his eyes.

THE FOLLOWING DAY.

“Mom!”

“What is it this time, Wiki?”

“I saw this thing called seed at grandpa’s room!” Wiki reported to his Mom, his face was full of dirt for unknown reasons. When Mrs. Buoyant opened her son’s palm, her sudden excitement died momentarily.

“Son, that’s a rock.”

END

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“You shall not pollute the land in which you live…. You shall not defile the land in which you live, in which I also dwell; for I the LORD dwell among the Israelites.” (Numbers 35:33-34)

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“How long will the land lie parched and the grass in every field be withered? Because those who live in it are wicked, the animals and birds have perished.” (Jeremiah 12:4)

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“If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land.” (2 Chronicles 7:13-14)

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Multitasking, The Danger

Written by: Jenine Silos

Multitasking.

Merriam-Webster.Com defines it as: the performance of multiple tasks at one time.

Photo credits: my4hrworkweek.com

We Filipinos are known as one of those multitasking persons, most of us, realistically. I think that explains why almost half of my fellow citizens are working as OFWs outside the country. I speak no wrong about it, however, I do believe that one of the major reasons why Filipinos are still in the midst of financial crisis is also rooted to this simple word–multitasking. Well, I do believe multitasking is a dangerous zone for yourself if you are not able to control it. Sometimes even, you have indulged yourself in many tasks without realizing that you have gone too far–too much that your body can’t actually handle. You heard me right. But somehow, and in some place, many have failed to notice it. We work so hard to earn money, until we get seriously ill because our body can endure no more. What happens next? We use the money we earned to pay for the hospital bills–our expenses are even two times the money we earned!

Some consequences of multitasking:

  • Stress
  • Inhibition of Creative Ability
  • Inability to Problem Solve
  • Slower Thinking

Even if we can handle multiple tasks at one time, or if we have the skills to pursue them, we still have to consider to take care the temple of the Holy Spirit–our body.

“Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?  You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price.  Therefore honor God with your body,” (1 Cor. 6:19-20).

People who do overtime, those who work in consecutive period without taking rest are most preferably the ones who easily get sick. They’re easily prone to viruses and strong bacteria because their immune systems are weak, all of us know about it. Right? But because we, people as we are, we are so focused to make the ends meet; thus we have to work hard and harder until we have lost sight to our primary purpose in life, that is–to PLEASE, WORSHIP and SERVE the LORD our God!

As a Christian, we have to be very careful in whatever we do, since we have to put it in our minds that we do not live for ourselves–we LIVE to PLEASE God, not to please our neighbors. And thus, we have to consider to take care of our body. Too much work will slowly kill us physically, emotionally, and much worst to our spiritual life. I have thought of this because, just like what I mentioned earlier, when we work simultaneously (just for the sake of our fleshly desires) then we would slowly and gradually LOST our primary FOCUS in LIFE–to please, worship, and serve the LORD our God. Why? Because we have busied ourselves in too much hard work! It usually starts with waking up early in the morning, bearing in mind that we have lots of things to do, so we tend to hurry–to read the Word of God will not even sink into our minds, see?

What is the use of multitasking when we cannot even read the Word of God? I see this as the start of danger in our spiritual life, because as a Christian, we should not overlook this case. The danger zone? It is when you start thinking of completing the tasks before anything else! Because we then prioritize the human works before God! Uh-uh, sounds very dangerous to me.

If we are multitasking persons, then we could at least use it for the  glorification of God’s Kingdom and His name, however, we still have to remember that we have to take care of our body for it is the temple of the Holy Spirit. We have to consider our earthly limitations. So that God can use us MORE to glorify Him and His Son, our only Lord and Savior–Jesus Christ.

There is danger behind these multiple tasks–because if this is left uncontrolled it will affect our daily walk with Christ Jesus. Multitasking will drain us out physically and emotionally when it is left uncontrolled, and sooner or later, it will affect our spiritual life. I hope you get the message!

In everything we do, we must be very careful.

If you are convicted by this message, then go and pray. Talk to our Loving Father, and let us repent our sins.

Prayer: LORD, please forgive me, for I have done so many works yesterday and today, without even realizing that I was not able to spend time with You. Help me oh Father, to love You more than any works that this world has to offer. In Jesus’ name, Amen and Amen.

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Tears of Saints (1)

Written by: Jenine Silos

A half-emptied bottle of juice–a commercialized Calamansi drink–was rested upon the rounded table. A pile of folded papers was next to it. She was typing keys on the keyboard for quite some time now, and the sounds that it make were the only audible noise in the perimeters of that small room. Under her eyes there were dark circles — anyone who sees her would initially assume that she was stress.

She was nineteen years old but during these kind of days, a week before examination, her age would not agree to her outward appearance. She was always busy in cramming. Oh, yes, she’s cramming–again! She knew it was not normal anymore, especially since she had a lot of free time wherein she could study her school notes and so on. But then again, she was not using her free time for leisure, she was not wasting her time for clubs, she was not even studying in her free time, at all!

She was found facing the computer screen most of the time — that is.

She was writing.

And no one knows what she writes.

The door knob clicked and yet it was nothing to her.

Her eyes were widening in frustration as she faced the computer codes, tracing whatever errors and bugs that she made in the process. If she could not get it this time, then she might fail her exams. Cramming was very frustrating for her, but to complain was not even an option.

“Nina,” Called her older sister, who had just entered the door.

She was hearing nothing.

Codes…codes…codes.

Check…compile…run…

ERROR!

Arrgh!

“Nina!”

“What?” She turned her face towards the caller, her face looked interrupted.

Nina looked bewildered when she realized that her older sister looked worried, but about what? When her sister hastily put her bag on the table, she asked, “Are you in a rush, Merry? You just came in.”

Merry, the older one, shook her head while she was looking something into her bag, “I dropped by at the gasoline station to buy snacks. I saw some children on the corner, then a kid grabbed my shirt.”

“And?” Nina followed up, turning her focus back to the screen. “Are they the usual kids? I think I know them.”

“No, they are new faces. She was asking for some medicine for her sister’s fever.” She said, the sounds of opening her wallet was even audible.

Nina stopped from what she was doing in the computer. Then she turned back again to her sister, and asked, “Did you give them food?”

“No, she was only asking for medicines. We cannot give them money, but I’ll cook some oatmeal for them. The older one is sick and her fever is high, but I said to them to wait for me because I will bring food.”

“Nina, I was thinking to give them your gray comforter, is it alright with you?” Merry asked momentarily.

“It’s cold tonight, and it looks like it’s going to rain.” Nina said, “Prepare the oatmeal then, I’ll go and get the comforter.”

Finally, Nina was standing up from her chair after the long hours of cramming with her codes and notes. Debugging and tracing was then nowhere in her mind. She went inside the room to get the gray comforter, the one that her mother gave to her in case of emergency, but she wasn’t using it actually. So what Merry suggested was a wise idea.

And those children will need the comforter more than them, anyway.

‘I don’t get the parents of those children’, Nina asked herself as she entered the room. ‘Probably their parents don’t get it in the first place. If only we could give them shelter.’

“You go and see them, Nina.” Merry said after awhile, pouring now the cooked oatmeal inside the small lacquer box.

“Me? I thought you promised them you’ll be back. If they’re new faces then they don’t know me, either.” Nina replied, the comforter was now folded in her arms.

Merry looked at her with obvious eyes, “You will know them immediately. One of them is sick, and they’re just lying beside the cooler of Rex Drug Store.”

Nina glanced at the computer screen that was left idle for some minutes now. Sighing, she said, “Okay then.”

Merry gave her the lacquer filled with hot oatmeal and said, “I already bought medicines for the sick child. Just give the instructions to the youngest one, tell them to eat the oatmeal first. And don’t give them money, just buy them some mineral water.”

“I see.” Nina nodded then she went on her way.

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There were children, of about four,  in their dirt faces lying on the cold cement, they were like some tunas in a small can, lying like worms, bending their knees upon the cold just next to the cooler of a drug store, some mere walks away from Nina’s residence. Drawing nearer to the street children, Nina’s heart was then broken upon seeing their pitiable situation, to worry about her cramming and tight schedule was not even enough to endure the anxiousness of these children.

If only…she always thought.

“Who’s got the fever among you?” Nina asked, she was now kneeling down beside them on the cement. The children looked up at her. A bliss of hope was upon their faces when Nina smiled at them.

“My older sister, Big Sis!” One exclaimed while pointing her index finger at the one who was lying very weakly. “She’s like that ever since yesterday.”

Nina sighed in desperation, offering some coins from her pocket, “Can someone buy a mineral water from the store then?”

“Me! I can do it.” The smallest kid answered, dirt covered her temples down to her pointed chin.

“Go then, buy some water.” Nina said and gave the kid some coins in exact amount. The kid rushed to the nearest store.

“Were you the one who passed by here earlier, Big Sis?” A boy, of about four years old, asked in a low voice.

“No. But I’m her younger sister. She already gave you the medicines, right?” Nina said as she opened the lacquer box, then she gave them the utensils. They all nodded.

She turned towards the sicked one, and said, “Up now, little child. You need to eat this before the medicine.”

The girl coughed but did what Nina said, anyway. The boy assisted her to lean her back on the wall, and they helped her to eat.

“Can we eat some, too, Big Sis?” Asked one a moment later.

“Of course, but prioritize first the sick one, okay?”

“Here’s the water! Here’s the water!” The kid who went to buy reported.

“Now, now. When she’s done eating, let her drink the medicine okay? The other two tablets are for tomorrow’s breakfast and lunch.” Nina instructed. “But never let her drink it without eating anything first.”

“Okay, Big Sis.” The smallest one replied.

“And oh, by the way, I have some unused comforter here. I will give it to your older sister because she is sick and it’s cold tonight.” Nina informed, unfolding the comforter, until someone pulled it from her.

“Can I have this instead?” The youngest asked.

“No, it’s mine!” The boy exclaimed, pulling off the comforter from the other. Then they all went into chaos.

“Wait! Don’t quarrel!” Nina interfered. Nina pulled back the comforter and said, “This is for the sick one, okay? She’s sick and she needs it most. When she’s fine, then you all can share with it. Okay?”

The children just nodded.

“That’s it.” Nina said, smiling as she stood up. She lay hands on the sick one and prayed within, then she went on her way back home.

“THANK YOU, BIG SIS!” The children shouted.

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Morning after.

“I saw them on the streets.” Merry said, closing the door.

“Is she okay now?” Nina asked.

“I think yes. Because they were smiling, I have not seen the oldest though.”

When Nina went back to the drug store, to check them herself, the children were not there anymore.

So instead, she just went to buy some coffee at the nearest convenience. And upon crossing the street she saw the children at the other side, playing some wooden cars. When Nina saw the oldest one, the one who got sicked, who was also there–smiling–and was playing along with her siblings, Nina just then could not explain the happiness she had felt deep inside.

From a distance, seeing them with their brilliant smiles now, Nina almost broke into tears.

Thank You, LORD.

For You have heard our prayers.

Nina smiled.

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Psalms 147:3

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

 James 5:15

“And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the LORD will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven.”

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