(Originally published at WriteforACause.Org)
Arguing each other isn’t a simple matter, no matter where you look at it, especially when the argument is so heated that might result into shouting and pointing fingers. Some arguments are foolish and full of nonsense things, some are out of pride and geniuses, while others are caused by proving one’s superiority and intellect all because he hates to lose.
James 3:17 ESV But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.
If you’re a spiritual person, heated argument is something you must not come into practice—don’t make it a lifestyle! Arguing isn’t highly recommended, even if it’s just intended for a joke. But if you’re trapped in a heated argument, or discussion, or if someone leads you to debate which you cannot escape because it is often inevitable, the following ways might help you. It may not apply to all, but there is always someone out there who might need this.
- Do a business talk! If you feel like the discussion is nearly beyond limit, you take the initiative to make it stop. Encourage the other party that there’s no point in debating, encourage him as if you’re selling your product, meaning, do it in a pleasant, professional way! If both of you have different grounds then it’s useless, going any further might result to a more heated discussion.
- Don’t frown, keep smiling. If you’re at your limit, take a deep breath and smile. Just like that, yes, smile as if you’re facing a clown with his big, red lips, or simply imagine McDonalds in front of you, wait, I think that’s creepy. But if the person keeps on throwing words at you, keep smiling still, smile and reply no more. Shortly then, he will feel awkward at your smiling that shouting at you isn’t any more fit into the situation.
- Eat your pride. Be humble instead. This is simple, and very basic knowledge, but it is very hard to do without the grace of God! But you see, if both of you are prideful then stopping an argument is quite a struggle to both sides. Pride is not a soap (okay I’m humoring), it’s a destructive attitude that will always make you want to win any argument. Take the first step to let it go, and embrace humility, even if it means losing the discussion.
- Stop and stare. So you’re done presenting your view, and he’s done also, and yet he isn’t satisfied so he keeps on muttering arguments at you, then I highly recommend that you be silent. Don’t throw replies anymore, you know it’s pointless already. I highly recommend that in the midst of his blabbering, you stop. Then stare at the person’s eyes with seriousness, or, in a very comical way. Keep mute and just stare at him or her, more likely, he will say, “What?” Good then if that’s the case, you can tell him, “Are you done? Because, well, I’m done. So, let’s eat?”
- Read Mark 12:31. And be reminded.
What are your other thoughts on how to stop an argument? It’s my pleasure to hear more from you, too. List it below!
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