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5 Ways on How to Stop an Argument

(Originally published at WriteforACause.Org)

howtostopargumentArguing each other isn’t a simple matter, no matter where you look at it, especially when the argument is so heated that might result into shouting and pointing fingers. Some arguments are foolish and full of nonsense things, some are out of pride and geniuses, while others are caused by proving one’s superiority and intellect all because he hates to lose.

James 3:17 ESV But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.

If you’re a spiritual person, heated argument is something you must not come into practice—don’t make it a lifestyle! Arguing isn’t highly recommended, even if it’s just intended for a joke. But if you’re trapped in a heated argument, or discussion, or if someone leads you to debate which you cannot escape because it is often inevitable, the following ways might help you. It may not apply to all, but there is always someone out there who might need this.

  1. Do a business talk! If you feel like the discussion is nearly beyond limit, you take the initiative to make it stop. Encourage the other party that there’s no point in debating, encourage him as if you’re selling your product, meaning, do it in a pleasant, professional way! If both of you have different grounds then it’s useless, going any further might result to a more heated discussion.
  2. Don’t frown, keep smiling. If you’re at your limit, take a deep breath and smile. Just like that, yes, smile as if you’re facing a clown with his big, red lips, or simply imagine McDonalds in front of you, wait, I think that’s creepy. But if the person keeps on throwing words at you, keep smiling still, smile and reply no more. Shortly then, he will feel awkward at your smiling that shouting at you isn’t any more fit into the situation.
  3. Eat your pride. Be humble instead. This is simple, and very basic knowledge, but it is very hard to do without the grace of God! But you see, if both of you are prideful then stopping an argument is quite a struggle to both sides. Pride is not a soap (okay I’m humoring), it’s a destructive attitude that will always make you want to win any argument. Take the first step to let it go, and embrace humility, even if it means losing the discussion.
  4.  Stop and stare. So you’re done presenting your view, and he’s done also, and yet he isn’t satisfied so he keeps on muttering arguments at you, then I highly recommend that you be silent. Don’t throw replies anymore, you know it’s pointless already. I highly recommend that in the midst of his blabbering, you stop. Then stare at the person’s eyes with seriousness, or, in a very comical way. Keep mute and just stare at him or her, more likely, he will say, “What?” Good then if that’s the case, you can tell him, “Are you done? Because, well, I’m done. So, let’s eat?”
  5. Read Mark 12:31. And be reminded.

What are your other thoughts on how to stop an argument? It’s my pleasure to hear more from you, too. List it below!

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God bless the works of our hands and thoughts!

Humble Yourself and Submit to Authority

Written by: Jenine Silos

What does the bible say about submission? What does it really mean? Is it really necessary for Christians to have a submissive heart? And why do we need to submit?

Hebrews 13:17 “Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.”

Submission means consistently putting other needs and benefits before your own, a willingness to yield or surrender to somebody.

Submitting to leaders is not a fictional principle, but it is very biblical! God commands us to submit to those who are in authority over us. Romans 13:1 “Let every person be subject to governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God.”

By submitting to our leaders, we are also submitting to the One who is in authority over us—that is, Christ. In order to submit, we really need to have a humble heart, a heart that is willing to surrender and lay down everything before God. Hence, we should desire and pray for a humble heart, and be willing to completely submit to God.

We must not only submit to our leaders, but to “each other.” Ephesians 5:21 “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Paul is teaching us to submit to one another. And that’s the gospel of Christ, being slaves to each other. And even though we have our own spiritual leaders (and that we have to submit to them), all of us have no other leader but Him. We are all under Jesus’ leadership.

We need to submit to our leaders because God said so. Romans 13:1-7 “Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment. For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, for he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer. Therefore one must be in subjection, not only to avoid God’s wrath but also for the sake of conscience.”

Titus 3:1 “Remind them to be submissive to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good work,”

So if you find a hard time in humbling yourself to your leaders, then pray to God. Pray to Jesus and ask for Him a humble heart. But asking for a humble heart actually starts with a desire, and that desire leads you to decide — a decision to deny yourself and completely follow Christ.  There are people who have the desire but they don’t have firm decision, some could not even decide because they know that if they will, they will have to abandon their sins—the worldly pleasures.

Pray for a humble heart. And submit to Authority—Jesus Christ, including to those people who are instituted by God, the leaders.

Never Stop Learning

Never Stop Learning!

Written by: Jenine Silos

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Learning happens all the time. It simply happens wherever you are even when you don’t expect it at all. The necessity to acquire knowledge to compete with today’s standards is not enough reason to start learning, because learning will present itself without actually wanting it; sometimes you will just know something when you realize it’s already there.

Suppose you go to a coffee shop, and it’s not the usual shop that you go into but it’s the nearest one to your school so you go there anyway. Then you order a cup of brewed coffee with a plate of pancake. And you ask the attendee for the wifi’s password while you start up your laptop, and they reply “Sorry Miss. But we don’t offer WiFi in our shop.” Suppose you thought that every coffee shop is a wifi area, however, this circumstance helps you to conclude that not all coffee shop is a WiFi Spot. It’s not a big knowledge but it’s an experience wherein you learn that not all coffee shops are wifi spots. You never expect it from the start, there’s no necessity of it, but you learn something new.

Learning is not just all about acquiring of knowledge just for the sake of it. Learning is there when you realize something new aside from what you already know. It is there even when you don’t expect it.

Well, the principle of learning is very simple—it just never stops!

How great would it be if we apply the principle of learning to our relationship with Christ! Can you imagine a relationship with Christ that just never stops? Suppose a person isn’t a follower of Christ, he knows there is a God but he doesn’t seek for it, because he doesn’t want a God to rule his life. But that’s not enough reason for him not to know God. Because in one way or another, Jesus Christ himself, our LORD and Savior, will present Himself to that man. He will be known even when a person claims he doesn’t need God. Jesus did not come to call the righteous, but the sinners, that include those people who live a godless life.

And when Jesus heard it, he said to them, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. I came not to call the righteous, but sinners.” (Mark 2:17)

How great would it be if we apply the principle of learning to our daily walks with Christ! We will then never stop getting thirsty for the word of God. We are always hungry. Hungry for the new revelations and wisdom from God! True learning is acquired from God and not by man’s works alone—and it never stops!

Even when a person doesn’t have the desire to learn about God, in one way or another, God himself will be made known to him. But the crucial issue is not about his learning, but it is when it already involves his personal RESPONSE. God will reveal himself to us, but knowing He is real will not save us. Because what matters now is the way how we respond to His calling…by that I meant…

“Do you believe that Jesus Christ cleansed our sins by dying at the cross? Do you accept Him as our personal LORD and Savior? Are you willing to die and give up yourself to faithfully follow Him?”

For to us, in Christ, we should never stop learning more about Him. Be a lifelong student of God!

Who Am I?

Selfish.

Introvert. Pessimistic.

Sick and full of hurts.

A lone woman living in her unrealistic world.

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I was that kind of woman. I was a person who lived a life that none would like to have. I was sickly ever since I was a kid. I developed a world that none could understand. I was selfish, even my feeling was something I did not want to share with. I was afraid. Scared. Because no one has succeeded to understand what I felt inside, the pain that I carry ever since young—the kind of pain that none could sympathize—unless the person will exchange hearts with me. The world I see was narrow, cruel. I was not comfortable with any eye contact, because I did not want people to see the kind of world hiding beyond my eyes. So I grew up disliking the crowd.

For the past eighteen years of my life (I was born again when I turned 19), I could say that I have wasted it all—for nothing. I have wasted it in a sense that: I did not create a happy childhood (even though I have some opportunities to do so), I did not mingle with other people aside from my relatives and long-term friends, I did not use my free time to make something relevant, I have not even realized how powerful a prayer is. I did not even know how to pray.

I was someone who USED most of her time in BED—bedridden and sick.

I was someone who COULD NOT play with the other children because I was weak.

I was someone WHO could not remember any happiness during my childhood days. I bet I did not have any.

But then, everything changed when I made a covenant with God. A covenant that has led me to what I am right now—a covenant that I am accountable of. I was seventeen when I made a covenant with God, and I promised Him of something in exchange of another chance—a chance to live once again.

Reviewing the past years, I realized how bad I had lived my life. I realized just how negative I was. If I died three years ago, then I know for certain that I’d go to hell. But the LORD our God is so gracious, He is gracious to me (and to you) that He has given me another chance to correct my life—to repent with my sins and to return to Him.

Who am I? I always ask myself. Who Am I—a woman who lived a life without seeing its beauty, a woman who blamed herself for being the person she was, a woman who cannot love because she chose not to love, a woman who thought her life was a mistakeWHO AM I then…that the LORD of all the earth, would even care to know my name, would care to feel my hurt?

It’s not because of who I am. But because of what He has done. Not because of what I’ve done, but because of who You are. I am just a flower quickly fading, here today and gone tomorrow, a wave tossed in the ocean, a vapor in the wind. Still You hear me when I’m calling, Lord, You catch me when I’m falling. And You’ve told me who I am:

I am Yours. 

(Lyrics from WHO AM I by Casting Crowns)

God has seen my troubles and He knows my pain even from the start, so when God sees my desiring heart (a desire to correct my mistakes, a desire to serve Him) then God made His way so that I can return back to Him! I am saved because I chose to believe in Him and ACCEPT Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior, I chose to correct my mistakes with His help and mercy, I chose to have faith in His amazing grace. I choose to walk with Jesus. And I will not stake my life in any lesser thing, because Jesus died at the cross and shed His blood for me.

It happened to me, it happened to someone I know, and I believe it will HAPPEN TO YOU. Just go and examine your heart, and you will see that God is working all the things in your life. Apart from Him, we are nothing.

It was not because of my doings, it was not because I loved God, but it was because God has loved me first–that’s why I am here now, writing in whatever way I can to tell the nations that He is Mighty to Save! Our God is Mighty to Save–He will save you from your sufferings and pain if you choose to let Him help you! God will save you just as He has saved me!

I am twenty now. Turning 21. And it has been three years already (turning four) since I made a solemn promise with God. A promise to serve Him with all my heart and with all my soul. Three years of not doing anything since the covenant was wasted, and right now, I will not waste any time any further–and I will no longer abuse God’s amazing grace.

I will serve God with all my heart, and in every way I can, even if it means I will be discriminated and persecuted by my friends, family, or anyone else. I will not be easily shaken, for I myself have seen the miracles and glory that the LORD our God has done in my life. Three years is enough.

It is time.

It is time for me to serve Him in every way I can…until I finish the RACE.

And I will wait…for that BIG DAY to come…that He will say unto me: “Well done, good and faithful servant!”

It is time.

People must know the Truth because the Truth will set you free.

THE QUESTION IS: Do you want to untangle the chains in your life? Do you want to be set free? Are you tired of your life in its endless misery? Then go…repent. And decide to follow Jesus Christ as your LORD and Savior. Forgive others and you will be forgiven. Lay down your burdens to Him. You will see the difference. And you will know what I am talking about.

I pray that all my brethren, including those children in the streets, the homeless, the aged, the rich and everyone else, will know the TRUTH.

And the TRUTH will set us free.

God bless you all. And I love you with the love of the LORD.

Neen.

Why Sundays are Happy Days?

Written by: Jenine Silos

Once, a classmate asked me, her tone was suggesting deep curiosity, “Neen, you don’t usually hang out with us. Why is that?”

I just smiled. At first, I did not know how to answer her question, I didn’t even know if she would be able to understand my reasons. But, if I wouldn’t tell her the reasons right there, it would make me a hypocrite. And there was more than that, it would be similar as denying Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior.

WHY?

Because when I was born again and decided to follow Christ, the worldly things don’t matter to me any longer. Including those hanging out with friends in the mall and to any place that benefits me nothing. Most of my college friends loved hanging out, but I wasn’t always there. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing. I don’t say it’s evil. But the question is…is it pleasing to the eyes of the Lord? Does my going there and here and fun all day will glorify the Father? Surely, yes, if that fun is for the Lord. But it’s unlikely.

So I told her, “Well, I am busy most of the time.”

She irked her brow. “Busy at what?”

“In ministry and other church activities. Or if not, I’m busy in school of course, sometimes working on with my part-time job. But, if I’m not busy then I’m just writing something. Most importantly, I don’t enjoy outside activities, unless it’s for the ministry. That is all to it. ” I said and she just nodded her head in awe.

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Well, I’m a university student, and there are times that I have school activities during Sundays, but none of it I had attended yet. Because the JOY that I gain in worshiping the Lord every Sunday services cannot be compared to the JOY of that good grades! When it is Sunday, it is always a HAPPY DAY for me. Because it is the day wherein I can completely worship the LORD with all my heart and soul, it is His day. A BIG HAPPY DAY.

The only thing, and the best one I may add, that I can do for the Father is to avoid the worldly matters — and sooner or later, my classmates and friends would see the DIFFERENCE. The differences between my life and their life. It’s difficult, yes, especially when temptations are everywhere. But then, in God, nothing is impossible — I really love to say this — that there’s nothing impossible with God.

So what are the differences?

  • They go to beaches and clubs, I attend church monthly meetings.
  • They love worldly music, I find it annoying.
  • They use their free time after school for nothing, I use mine to attend every available activities I can attend to in the church.
  • They curse, I say nothing.
  • They laugh hard for funny jokes (and I am their laughing stock most of the time), but I laugh because that’s my character ever since I was born again.
  • When we fail a subject, they’re disappointed and sad. But I always smile and press on. As if nothing happens. They even told me that it was their first time to see someone who got failed and yet was still happy about it.
  • They wake up early in the morning for school matters, while I am always excited to wake up early for daily devotionals.
  • They don’t usually have peace…but in Him I always have.
  • They proclaim to believe in God, but their lifestyle do not say it.
  • They usually sleep or hang out on Sundays…but Sundays are my Happy days with the LORD.
Until one day, a close friend of mine came to asked me…because she wondered…and wondered…and wondered: “Neen, why are you always happy? Neen…what do you do in your church?” See????! Someone finally noticed the difference! And more…I so believed, more and more will be blessed just by noticing the differences of our lives. They will see God’s presence in me…and that is my desire.
I want to encourage my friends and classmates….that SUNDAYS are HAPPY DAYS with the LORD our GOD!
So I encourage you to go and be a blessing to everyone that you know! And sooner or later….those people around you will notice the difference.

Give Thanks

Written by: Jenine Silos

Give thanks with a grateful heart, in everything we do, give thanks.

Whether it is a failure, a suffering or a trial, give thanks to the LORD our God for in this times we are disciplined, we become even more stronger and courageous. If we are disciplined then it means God loves us, for who is a father who loves his child that does not discipline him? Proverbs 13:34 Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.

In every failure there is gain, success never starts automatically, it starts from failure. There is no top without bottom. There is no rich without poor. And so thus there is no problem without a solution – there is – we just have to ask for God’s guidance and help to enable us to solve them.

Cover of "Holy Bible"

Cover of Holy Bible

And to start reading the Bible is the start of understanding of what God really wants for us, it’s our daily bread that will equip us in our lives, in our daily walk with Him….and by reading the Bible we will know that God answers our prayers. Because everything is written in it.

It is important to note that it is not by our own hands that we have accomplished something great, it is not by man alone, but it is GOD’s way of telling you “Hey, son, I am here.” For there is nothing a man can do without the help of the LORD. If there is suffering, know that it is one of God’s way of reminding us in our sinful ways so that we may repent and turn back to Him.

At times, people suffer and encounter so much trials and pain, but we must know that God’s way of handling things are indescribable to the human’s mind; there are times that we just have to suffer so that God can test our hearts. Are we just obeying His words just for the sake of obeying, or are we obeying Him because we have the knowledge that He is God and Lord of Lords, and that we are doing it with a willing heart?

Rediscover you heart today. Examine yourself. Take time to spend time with God and talk to Him. In Him you will find peace, a kind of peace that the world cannot offer.

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